Black Women

Watch: GOP Darling Mia Love Says Obama and His Supporters are “Trying to Divide the Country”

Some said Mormon Utah Mayor  and congressional candidate Mia Love was a new kind of black Republican, different from all the rest. Others of us knew better. Nothing against Love, but there’s really no freedom in the Republican Party now that the right wing has taken over, so it was only a matter of time before Mayor Love began spouting canned talking points. Well, that time finally came this morning. Sitting down with Fox and Friends,   Love discussed the cut backs she’s making in her city, and how sometimes, volunteers are better than paid workers. “We cut the civic events program and the funding for it, but we have a better program now because it is run on volunteers,” she said. “When you get the community involved, all of a sudden everybody wants to come to these events. We have a better run civic events program now than we ever had.” Love was also very quick to adopt the overused Republican talking point that Obama and his supporters are divisive. “We’ve got a President and people who support the President that are completely trying to divide this country,” she said later. “And I think everyone has to get involved. We are going to have to role up our sleeves, because technically what we are doing is we are stealing from the future generations to pay for the present.” It never occurs to Republicans like Mia Love that maybe what divided this country was wage stagnation. That when all of the wealth flows to the top, it causes anger and polarity. She ended,  “we are concerned about the future of our children and we have to do something about it.” Yes, Republicans are concerned about their futures and children, but Democrats are not, according to Love. Sadly, Mia Love is just more of the same. If you had listened to her without actually seeing her, she could’ve been any other Republican in the country. It doesn’t seem that she has much to add to the national debate. See for yourself:  

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Oprah Winfrey Gives LaToya Jackson Her Own Reality Show

Always known as the weirdest member of a family that seems to get stranger by the second, LaToya Jackson is the latest celebrity to earn a show on the OWN Network. Jackson, who was recently on a season of Celebrity Apprentice, will welcome cameras into her home as she stars in a new reality show called "Life With LaToya." The show will focus on LaToya's relationships with her famous family and friends as well as her business pursuits.  The world hasn’t always been all that interested in LaToya, so it is a surprise that she would be able to sell a reality show. But her recent intervention into the continuous drama and trauma of her famous siblings likely went a long way toward sealing the deal. "I am so pleased to be working with television legend Oprah Winfrey and to be a part of the OWN family. This will be one of the most exciting adventures of my life," Jackson said in a statement. The news comes about just after OWN Network's partner company, Discovery suggested that the network could see profits in 2012.   Oprah has modified her strategy a great deal since the ratings crisis, interviewing nearly anyone she felt could generate ratings.  She even interviewed the rapper 50 Cent, who has a dog named Oprah.  On the dog’s Twitter page, it says “50 Cent’s B*tch.” Discovery CEO David Zaslav, determined that OWN should be profitable by the “back half” of 2013, according to reports. This turnaround, he said was due to the increase in ratings since last January. Discovery and Winfrey are partners in the all- Oprah network, which has had it's ups and downs since January 2011. The network's slow start caused some advertisers to pull back which meant Discovery had to more than double its initial investment.     The post Oprah Winfrey Gives LaToya Jackson Her Own Reality Show appeared first on Black Like Moi .

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Ask a Black Man: How to Know If Your Man is Already “Occupied”

This was not written for women who don’t mind sharing a man.  There are a lot of women who, either deliberately or subconsciously, avoid asking questions that they don’t want to know the answers to.  Some don’t care what the man is doing before and after he leaves your place, which can be dangerous with all the STDs out here. Also, a person who is available is usually better for a full time job than even the greatest candidate who is already working for someone else. So, don’t just go after the best man you can find. Go after the best man you can truly have as your own.  Usually, the guy that you believe to be the man of your dreams is being spotted as the man of another woman’s dreams every single day of the week. You may not be in the competition all by yourself. But for those who want to know how to tell is your man is already “occupied,” here’s a list to help out. 1)      Did you ask him?  Don’t be tempted to communicate with your body or make assumptions.  If he never committed to you verbally, then he never committed to you.   2)      Does he avoid questions about who he might be dating? Use your female instincts. If they tell that he’s messing around, then he probably is.   3)      Is he consistent?  Does he call you at the same time every single day?  Do you get together on a regular basis and engage in consistent and time-consuming activities?  If his schedule seems sporadic and he disappears for long periods of time, that an easy way to spot a very “busy” man.   4)      Does he give you lots of time?  A rich man can send you lots of money, but we only have so much time.  If he regularly gives you several hours of his time, that means you also occupy a great deal of his life.   5)      Have you met his family and friends?  If you’re the girl on the side, most men aren’t going to introduce you to anyone.  They are only going to introduce you to their naked bodies in the middle of the night.   6)      Does he always turn his phone off when he’s with you and avoid having conversations?  If he avoids talking on the phone in front of you, doesn’t want you to see who called and turns his phone off, it’s because he is concerned about who might call him   7)      Does he invite you to his house on a regular basis?  If he comes to your turf, he’s a roamer to the homes of multiple women.  If he invites you to his space regularly, that usually means he’s not worried about another woman coming over.   8)      Do you have all of his phone numbers and does he encourage you to use them? Beware of the man who only wants you to call his cell and never his home number.  That could be an issue.     The post Ask a Black Man: How to Know If Your Man is Already “Occupied” appeared first on Black Like Moi .

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Twitterers Attack Gabby Douglas for Having “Bad Hair”

by Dr. Boyce Watkins Like the rest of America, I was overwhelmed with excitement about the achievements of the great Gabby Douglas. Douglas has set the world on fire, and broken records in the process.  I was especially inspired after finding out about the sacrifices Gabby’s mother made in order for her to be successful.  As the first black woman to secure the all-around gold medal in Olympic gymnastics, she has inspired people around the world for generations to come. That’s when the small-minded haters come in. The latest conversation tearing up the Twitterverse is the talk about Gabby’s hair.   Some women are taking issue with Gabby’s pony tail, pins and gel needed to hold her hair together during stressful performances.  I guess being the greatest gymnast on earth doesn’t mean anything if “yo weave ain’t tight” in the process. Allison Samuels at The Daily Beast discusses the issue in detail . “I love how she’s doing her thing and winning,’’ says 22-year-old Latisha Jenkins of Detroit told The Daily Beast. “But I just hate the way her hair looks with all those pins and gel. I wish someone could have helped her make it look better since she’s being seen all over the world. She representing for black women everywhere.’’ Also, celebrity hairstylist Larry Simms also chimed in on the conversation. “It’s taboo culturally to be seen in public with a kinky hairline and your ponytail is straight,” he said. “The textures don’t match her own hair and the added-on hair and that’s a problem. I think black girls in particular view her as a representation of themselves for the world to see. She just needs some Smooth and Shine gel and she’d be OK.’’ First off, we must make it clear that most of us are not so ignorant as to reduce one of the greatest performances in the history of sport down to how well the performer is “styling and profiling” on the sidelines.  Most African Americans were inspired by Gabby’s performance, and not in the least bit distracted over non-sense about her hair. Secondly, for those who are tempted to erode the self-confidence of a shining superstar who has overcome the odds, I only say shame-on-you.  We apologize if Gabby was too busy training to spend her Saturdays with you sitting all day at the beauty shop. Also, the black obesity/diabetes/heart disease problem can be directly traced to millions of women who won’t go to the gym because they are afraid of sweating out their hair.  Sacrificing your health in order to keep your hair together only makes you look that much prettier at your funeral. This sad and pathetic focus on style over substance certainly defines the weak, superficial value systems that have been adopted by too many of us today.  The girl with the cute hair and Gucchi shoes often thinks that she’s better off than the little girl who knows how to work hard to make something out of herself.  I argue that we should we all do what we can to put an end to such nonsense and squash these sad and worthless conversations before they even begin. Gabby (who I refer to as “The Flying Princess,” since I hate the name “Flying Squirrel”) is nothing short of an American hero and she’s every bit as beautiful as the little girl who missed gymnastics class last Saturday because she spent the entire day at the salon “getting her hurr did.” Beauty is more than scalp deep, and our kids need to understand this message clearly. Dr. Boyce Watkins is a professor at Syracuse University and founder of the Your Black World Coalition . To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

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Good for You Oprah: OWN Network Will See Profits by Late 2013

Media mogul Oprah Winfrey recently spoke about the struggle in creating and maintaining her OWN network. But now, according to Discovery officials, the OWN network, could turn a profit by late 2013. Discovery CEO David Zaslav, determined that OWN should be profitable by the “back half” of 2013, according to reports. This turnaround, he said was due to the increase in ratings since last January.  Oprah has been doing interviews that are out of the ordinary for her in her quest to improve ratings.  She was criticized for interviews with rapper 50 Cent, who named his dog Oprah.  The dog even has a twitter page which says that she is “50 Cents b**ch.” Discovery and Winfrey are partners in the all- Oprah network, which has had it’s ups and downs since January 2011. The network’s slow start caused some advertisers to pull back which meant Discovery had to more than double its initial investment.  Without advertising revenues, the network had a difficult time paying the enormous cost of doing business. In an interview with AdAge, Oprah said that her reputation raised expectations “beyond anything I was capable of doing on my own.” Yet some of OWN’s features and shows such as “Master Class” have garnered the success usually associated with the media mogul. Fans were understandably worried when reports that famed talk show host and cultural influencer Oprah Winfrey’s television network was struggling with ratings and finding the right programming. A show hosted by Rosie O’Donnell was canceled after only a few episodes. In a documentary, called “Oprah Builds a Network,” Oprah gave viewers a peek into just what it takes and what she and how she and her team  dealt with the struggle.

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The Man Who Cries In Silence

Trying to learn about what goes on in a man’s mind has not been an easy task these last few years.  I have faced ridicule from women who think I’m too soft on men. On the flip side, dealing with men that are unable to deal with their own truths or those of their male

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85-Year Olds Decide to Remarry after 50 Years Apart

Lena Henderson and Roland Davis realized they got it right the first time. The 85-year-olds got married as teenagers, divorced after 20 years and four kids. But now, almost 50 years later, the two have decided to remarry.  Couples sometimes get together after spending some time apart, but this move takes the cake. The wedding is  set to take place on Saturday, and this time. The first time they wed, they were married by a justice of the peace. There was no reception or honeymoon. “Oh no,” Henderson said in an interview with the Associated Press. “He went to work and I went home.” This time, they'll be married in a church with a reception to follow at a restaurant. They'll also be joined by four generations of family members. Since their divorce, both had remarried and had been widowed. After the loss of his second wife, the children encouraged their father to move back to New York where they lived. Davis agreed and ended up reconnecting with his first wife. “It’s every child’s dream, every child who has ever been in a family where divorce has occurred, that your parents would come back together,” their youngest daughter, Renita Chadwick, said in an interview with the Associated Press. The post 85-Year Olds Decide to Remarry after 50 Years Apart appeared first on Black Like Moi .

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Men: 7 Ways You Can Ruin Your Health If You’re Not Careful

Hey, if you’re a man, we are going to give a list that might save your life.  But then again, if you’re a stubborn man, you should be busy planning your own funeral. MSNBC gives a more thorough explanation for ways that you can ruin your own physical life, but we thought we’d give you the Cliff’s Notes. Also, we must warn you that, like a lot of other lists like this one, it was made with white people in mind.  If you want to translate the list to black men, just add gun violence, colon cancer and diabetes to the list and you’ll pretty much get the point. Here are the things that can harm your health as a man in America today: 1)      Being single:  Find a good woman (or man, or dog) and spend time with them.  Being by yourself all the time can be stressful and depressing.  Both factors can reduce your lifespan. 2)      Electronic overload:  Sitting in front of the computer, TV or Xbox can end your life early.  Get out and get some exercise. 3)      Skin cancer:  If you are susceptible to sunburns, use sunscreen.  Even brothers with bald heads can turn into a piece of chicken on a hot summer day. 4)       A poor diet:  You have to eat right or you’ll die, period. 5)      Careless driving:  Men drive fast and wreckless, more so than women. So, be careful out there. 6)      Untreated Depression:  If you can’t “snap out of it,” go see a doctor.  Also, getting exercise and plenty of sleep and avoiding drugs/alcohol can go a long way toward dealing with depression. 7)      Smoking:  It makes your teeth yellow and your lungs black.  Don’t do it.

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Venus Williams Holding Strong in the Olympics

Venus Williams is still pressing toward an Olympic gold medal. The tennis star reached the third round Tuesday when she beat Aleksandra Wozniak of Canada 6-1, 6-3.  She’s been holding strong and looks positioned to make a run for the gold this year. Experts say that 32-year-old Williams is a force on grass and dominates on that particular turf quite ...

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Woman Loses her Job, Her Hair and Her Breasts, but Then She Found Herself

49-year old Rene Syler, believe it or not, was the 39-year old who once seemed to have it all.  She was one of the anchors on “The Early Show” on CBS and had just built her dream home with her husband.  She commuted back and forth between New York and Texas to pursue her dream, not knowing about the struggles that were ahead. First, she lost her job.  Then, two weeks after losing her job, she had a mastectomy I had to have a mammogram every year because I was at the age, but also because of my family history. Every year I would have a biopsy after the mammogram because there was always something that needed a closer look. It got to the point where it just wasn’t really how I had envisioned my life. And that’s when I made the decision [to have a preventive mastectomy]. Rene says that going through her trials made her a tougher woman and helped her to gain a stronger sense of clarity about her life.  She went on tour with her book, “Good Enough Mother: The Perfectly Imperfect Book Of Parenting” to keep things going.  Then, things kept getting worse. Somewhere on a plane I got asthmatic bronchitis. I was in the hospital for three days pumped full of all this medication. When I got out, I had a meeting at CNN and I went right to the hairdresser and got my hair relaxed. A week later it fell out. It was really this journey of self-exploration and acceptance — that’s when I let my hair grow in natural. She says that although she thought about going back on TV, she was a “woman of a certain age,” meaning that some opportunities would simply not be given to her.   She then pursued her online career, with her blog and writing opportunities, along with speaking.  Although her career hasn’t been what she thought it would be, she is finding that the situation suits her better than she would have expected. I never ever thought I would be in this place. I never saw myself doing anything else but anchoring the news, and I certainly didn’t see myself working as hard as I am, or struggling the way that I am. I wish I had a dollar for every time I pulled into my driveway and broke into tears because I was like, “Is this going to work?” When you work for people your entire life, the idea of being able to do whatever you want, to be your own boss is a really cool and wonderfully freeing thing. Sometimes all of that freedom is scary, but that’s what I would say is the most gratifying. Rene goes on to explain that even though she was put through a series of trials that put her to the test, she was able to keep moving forward with that which was in front of her and find her true calling.  She lost her job, her hair and her breasts, but she can now proudly say that she is glad to have found herself.  To read more about Rene’s journey, click here. 

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