Black Men

How Often Do You Celebrate Your Work and Accomplishments?

By John Turner (Professor JT) We are giving people. We give our heart, efforts, energy, time, money; all that we have sometimes to others and to other things. It’s not necessarily a bad thing; it’s just how we are sometimes as a people. With all that we give in our lives, we sometimes forget about ...

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Beyonce’ Has Never Met Her Little Brother?

By: Stephanie Allen-Gobert Apparently, brotherly love is not what super star Beyonce is putting on top. Speaking to “Inside Edition” Alexsandra Wright, Matthew Knowles’ baby mama, revealed details about the music mogul Beyonce and her father’s non-involvement in the life of her four year old son Nixon Alexander Knowles. Wright spoke out on her first television interview to “Inside Edition.” Wright confessed that Knowles has not spent any time with Nixon. And from the interview one can gather that Daddy Knowles is not the only family member that hasn’t been formally introduced to the young boy. Beyonce has yet to meet her little brother. Adding to the situation, Wright mentioned that Knowles hasn’t paid her any child support. As a result, he currently owes $32,000 in court ordered child support. Wright continued giving out details surrounding her relationship with Knowles as she touched on an 18 month affair she had with Matthew while he was still married to Tina Knowles. Matthew’s refusal to pay child support hasn’t benefited Wright, who was forced to get on food stamps as a way of supporting their son. She continues to stand by her claim that Knowles insisted she give their son to Beyonce and Jay Z so they could raise as their own before Blue Ivy was born, Wright holds no ill will towards the power couple. “I don’t expect Beyonce to take accountability. It’s not her problem. It’s not her situation, “she told “Inside Edition.” Beyonce and Jay Z have never attacked me. They’ve [never] done anything wrong to me. They’ve never been negative at all,” Wright added. Matthew and Tina Knowles separated in 2009 after rumors of Matthew fathering a love child. The couple was married for 31 years. Knowles originally denied he was the father of Nixon, but DNA testing later proved otherwise. Source: www.eurweb.com  

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Robin Thicke Wants His Wife Back

By: Stephanie Allen-Gobert By any means necessary! A pal of singer Robin Thicke told TMZ, “He is determined to prove to Paula he can be a good husband.” Other sources are saying Thicke does not want his three year old son Julian raised in two separate homes and has even promised not to party after his next gig in Washington. The couple has been married for almost nine years. The ‘Feel Good’ singer has canceled three consecutive concerts on his North American tour after announcing earlier this week that he had parted ways from his wife. Robin was a no show at Harrah’s Cherokee Casino Resort in North Carolina last night. “Due to unforeseen circumstances, Robin Thicke will postpone his performance at Harrah’s Cherokee originally scheduled for February 25,” the venue said in a statement. This concert will be rescheduled and the new date announced as soon as possible. We apologize for any inconvenience.” He previously scrapped gigs on Friday in Atlanta and Saturday in Orlando, blaming vocal issues, but instead was seen jetting to Vancouver, where Paula is currently filming, in a reported bid to save his marriage. The 36 year old star said last week:”I never want to let down my fans but I have unfortunately lost my voice and cannot perform tomorrow night.” Robin is expected to continue his tour this Thursday at the GMU Patriot Centre in Washington, DC. “We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time,” they said in a joint statement to People magazine yesterday. The news will come as no surprise to many – their relationship has long been the subject of split rumors, ever since Thicke released his NSFW accompanying video to “Blurred Lines”, which featured topless models bouncing about in front of balloons that spelled out the phrase ‘Robin Thicke has a big d**k’. Then there was the performance that can’t be unseen with Miley Cyrus at the MTV VMA awards , where he underwent several minutes of twerking and s*x simulation with the young star. “I don’t know if I would still be alive in some ways if it wasn’t for Paula. She’s been my rock, my muse, my inspiration and I love her. The whole way.” Thicke and Patton met when they were teenagers and began dating at the tender age of 16. “I knew she was special the night I met her. I was only 14, but she was already the most special girl,” Thicke told Star Magazine a few months ago. “As a relationship progresses, you fall in love again in so many deeper ways. You realize that you need each other and you can’t live without each other.” We shall see if the two really can’t live without each other. Source: mirror.co.uk

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Omarosa Runs To Be On The LA School Board

By Lechette Walker Omarosa Manigault, who starred on the TV’s Reality show The Apprentice, is up against nine other candidates in the race for a seat on the L.A Unified School District Board. She decided to run based upon the encouragement of parents in her church congregation and her overall community. “I gladly answer their call to action,” she stated to theGrio in an email on Wednesday. “There is nothing more important than fighting for our children!” The ambitious personality of Omarosa, is mounted from her tough childhood experiences that built strength which resulted in her determination to escape her environment. “[It was] reality,” Omarosa said. “I grew up in the projects. Surrounded by poverty and despair, I took what I had and created a successful life out of it.” Omarosa said that she has always wanted to give back to the community so that she could be a positive inspiration to the youth. “I have been working and advocating for education long before I have ever been on television,” she said. “Growing up in public school and having witnessed tragedy, I made a vow to give back to youth and show that you can accomplish anything you aspire to be.” The 40 year old teacher, actor, and student, pursuing a PhD in Communications Studies at Howard is poised for the public persona needed for the position. She has set the stage by being on the board at Howard University’s MBA program and serving as the educational director for the Los Angeles Clippers Youth Hoops. Her thoughts on winning are optimistic and to the point, stating, “This is a high-profile position which will require a person that has a plan developed and ready to implement immediately.” The election for the board member appointment will be on June 3, and the winner will serve out the remaining term for the former member Marguerite Poindexter LaMotte who died in December. Source:   thegrio  

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8 Health Conditions That Mimic ADHD Symptoms

By Stephanie Allen-Gobert The name Attention Deficit Disorder was first introduced in 1980 in the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (www.psychcentral.com). The cause remains unknown. ADD/ADHD (Attention Deficit Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can be very difficult to diagnose for doctors and other clinicians. Certain medical conditions, psychological disorders, and stressful life events can cause symptoms that look like ADD/ADHD. Unlike a broken bone or cancer, ADHD, does not show physical signs that can be detected by a blood test or other lab test .  The typical ADHD symptoms often overlap with those of other physical and psychological disorders. Here are some examples of health conditions that share many of the symptoms associated with ADHD: 1)       Autism. People with autism can seem to lack the ability to create emotional bonds and can struggle with interactions with others. They are often overly excited when in high stimulus environments, which can seem like hyperactivity, a classic ADHD symptom. 2)       A Hearing Problem. People that suffer from hearing impairments can experience problems in social situations and may have underdeveloped communication. They may have a hard time paying attention because of their inability to hear properly. Undiagnosed hearing loss can appear as missing details of conversations, not listening or not paying attention. 3)       Hypothyroidism. An underactive thyroid can create feelings of sadness or depression. People with ADHD can also have these feelings, especially if the diagnosis of depression co-exists in the condition. Hypothyroidism also includes symptoms of the inability to concentrate and memory problems; which is also common in ADHD. 4)       Anemia. Iron deficiency in adults causes lethargy, feeling exhausted and irritability. In infants and children, however, the symptoms include irritability, inability to concentrate, impaired cognitive skills and a short attention span. Children with ADHD also exhibit symptoms of inability to concentrate and are distracted easily, mimicking a short attention span. 5)       Lead poisoning. Even at low levels, lead poison can create a number of problems. Some complications of lead toxicity include mental retardation, decreased school performance, short term memory problems, inability to concentrate and decreased cognitive function. Text book symptoms are sometimes seen in children with ADHD. 6)       Food Allergies or Vitamin Deficiencies. Individuals with hypoglycemia, also called low blood sugar have symptoms to include: aggression, hyperactivity, inability to sit still or low concentration levels. 7)       A Seizure Disorder. Some children with mild seizures can experience “absence seizures” lasting only a few seconds. After a seizure episode of several hours someone can feel disoriented and confused, causing difficulty following directions or being attentive. 8)       A Sleep Disorder. The inability to get a good night’s sleep interferes with many daytime activities; having a hard time concentrating, communicating, following directions and many may suffer decreased short term memory; mimicking ADHD symptoms. Before an accurate diagnosis of ADD/ADHD can be made, it is important that you see a mental health professional to explore and rule out the following possibilities of the conditions stated above. Source:  http://blackdoctor.org

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Do You Have Emotional Intelligence?

By Dr. Sheronda Orridge Emotional Intelligence is not about being book smart it is about making smart decisions and standing behind them.  A lot of times we get ourselves into situations and we know the right thing to do, emotional intelligences is not only knowing the right things to do but doing the right thing and ...

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Paula Patton and Robin Thicke end their marriage

Paula Patton and Robin Thicke have been together through thick and thin (bad joke).  But apparently, there are some things thicker than love and the couple has announced the end of their 8 year marriage. The two met when they were teenagers and both worked their way to the top of the Hollywood scene.  But there are times when great success can come at a huge price, and this might be one of them. The two issued statements giving the appearance that things are still good between the two and they seem to be mature about the whole break up.  We’re sorry to see this go down in what was a great professional year for both of them. This from People Magazine: “We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time,” the couple tell PEOPLE on Monday in an exclusive statement.  The pair, who first met when Thicke was 14, have been married since 2005 and welcomed  son Julian Fuego  in April 2010.  The singer, 36, long had been  very expressive  about his marriage to the actress, 38, saying last fall, “We’re pretty sure we’ve loved each other for a few lives.” 

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Dr. Sinclair Grey III: Gay or Straight, Let’s Focus On The Human Being

By Dr. Sinclair Grey III For a while now, the sports media has been focusing so much attention on Michael Sam and his admission that he’s gay that it’s difficult not talking about the upcoming football draft without hearing his story. With the possibility of being the ‘first openly gay’ football player, Michael Sam has handled himself professionally. Not appearing discouraged with the questions surrounding who he’s attracted to, Sam has done his best to remain focused on attempting to play in the National Football League. While at the NFL combine last week, Sam told reporters that he wished they would focus on him as the football player and not him as the first openly gay football player. In another development, NBA basketball player, Jason Collins, the first NBA player to openly admit that he was gay rejoined the league after signing a 10-day contract with the Brooklyn Nets.  Once again, news media attached themselves not to the person who plays basketball, but to the person who admitted that he was gay. I don’t know about you, but the amount of attention that is given to one’s intimate affairs is overbearing. I’ll admit that it was very courageous for Sam and Collins to come forth, but it’s time to get past their dating preference and look at them as human beings. I can’t help but remember learning the incalculable words of the Declaration of Independence in history class while in school many years ago. Going to a predominately all black elementary school and high school, I was somewhat sheltered to various groups of people. It was at the University of Maryland that I was introduced to people of all races, cultures, ethnicities, nationalities, and gender orientations. Through meeting many friends and acquaintances, I was able to see them as human beings and I tried my best not to label, categorize, or demonize them for being different. The words of the preamble of the Declaration of Independence comes to mind which states, “ We hold these truths to be  self-evident , that  all men are created equal , that they are endowed by their  Creator  with certain  unalienable Rights , that among these are  Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness . ” You’ll notice that this declaration regarded the whole person; it did not give credence to a person’s differences, especially whether they had a gender preference. How is it that we have strayed away from seeing an individual as a human being? Perhaps the answer lies within our own need or desire to judge or categorize a person based on their color, religion, ethnicity, political party affiliation, and now who they sleep with.  As long as we continue in this manner, we will never embrace people as human beings. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in one of his many riveting speeches spoke of the need to not judge a person based on the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. Sadly, judgment still happens. It begins when we’re unable to get past the idea that a person may be different from us. Different not so much in the sense of color, but different in the sense of lifestyle. Without embracing the differences in a person is to fail to learn about that person and from that person. As we are about to close out Black History month (formally), I want to urge you to look at a person as a human being. All of us, for the most part, want to be treated fairly and with decency and respect. Even though we have differences, let’s move beyond the differences and work towards finding similarities. Focus on the human being and how you can help that person enjoy life, liberty, and happiness. This kind of effort will take a person out of their shell to become a willing worker to make being human meaningful. Dr. Sinclair Grey III is a speaker, activist, published author of (4) books, life coach, and liberator of persons from all intellectual, social and cultural walks of life. He is a committed advocate for change. Email:  drgrey@sinclairgrey.org . Follow on Twitter @drsinclairgrey. Visit his website:  www.sinclairgrey.org

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