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Italian Winemaker Makes Racist “Monkey” Remarks about First Black Government Minister

  Reported By: Britt L A sixth-generation Italian winemaker has recently made some very racially charged remarks on Facebook about Cecile Kyenge, Italy’s first-ever black government minister. Kyenge took on the position of Integration Minister in April, and since then, she hasn’t been blessed with open arms from all in the Italian community. Kyenge has been repeatedly tortured by Italian anti-integration citizens and racists via social networks. Now Fulvio Bressan, the face of Bressan wines, has expressed his hostility towards Kyenge a little late in the game. On August 22, Bressan posted  a Facebook status in Italian, addressing the outspoken advocate for loose immigration laws. “hey, dirty Black MONKEY, I DON’T PAY TAXES to lodge your GORILLA friends at a HOTEL. Please bring them to your place, where you can feel superior with your money … Oops … That money is not even yours: it’s the money Italians give you … You’re a s***ty black gold-digger,” read Bressan’s status. Wine merchants and fans who were once avid consumers of Bressan’s wine have decided to boycott the ignorant wine guzzler. Jacob Kennedy, a British restaurateur says he wants to smash his stock of  Bressard wine  on the sidewalk in front of his London restaurant, Bocca di Lupo.  The British restaurant owner posted his outrage via YouTube. Despite the threats to boycott the bulk of his wealth, Bressan has continued to attack Kyenge on Facebook and summarizes ignorant anecdotes about minorities. All of them, of course, are in Italian. Bressan blames gypsies and immigrants for the Italians’ economic troubles and even shared a combined photo of Kyenge and people burnt to death with the caption “Look, this is what you do to Christians on your continent.” Bressan als0 mentioned U.S. President Barack Obama in one of his posts.  Bressan’s wine is still on sale for $40 a bottle online and through several American merchants.   Read More »

Boris Kodjoe Says Gaining Weight in a Marriage is an Unacceptable Deal Breaker

This one is sure to scare the ladies into putting away the chocolate cupcakes.  s*x symbol Boris Kodjoe surprised his fans by recently stating that he believes that gaining weight during a marriage is unacceptable.  During an interview in preparation for his new film, “Baggage Claim,” the actor says spoke with Cherise Nicole about what he can’t tolerate in a relationship. “Ok part of the deal is, you got to keep it sexay.  Got to keep it Hot.  Because it’s easy getting married, but it’s not as easy to stay married.  And part of that is, like, I make my wife, my girlfriend.  She’s my girlfriend.  So, we got to keep it sexay. If we keep it sexay, we keep it right, everything else falls into place. “What if I gained 200 pounds? And then she’ll look at me like, really? And I couldn’t even blame her if she started looking around.  Because I took her off the market, so I have to deliver what the market could possibly deliver for her.  So, I gotta take that place. Right? So, I gotta fulfill those things that the market could’ve given her.  I’m the market now, so I got to keep it Hot and she has to do the same for me.” This might make a lot of people upset.  But Brande Victorian at Madamenoire.com seems to think that Kodjoe is flat out wrong by making this sort of remark.  She asks: What if your spouse was to develop a degenerative disease or be physically scarred in a car accident, would you leave then to find something better in the market? Most times when a person gains serious weight, there are serious reasons behind it and if a man isn’t willing to stick by his woman and help her work through those issues, he probably didn’t need to get married in the first place. Maybe that’s the problem, he shouldn’t get married, since so many women want him anyway.  Putting degenerative disease and tragic car accidents to the side, most people just gain weight because they’re lazy.  So, does that mean that it’s OK to take your mate for granted, assuming that because you’ve nailed the person down, you get to keep them forever?  Maybe that’s a little naive. Always remember that if you don’t do your job at home, someone else might be out there applying for the job without you even knowing it. Read More »

Suge Knight Arrested

Suge Knight's life used to be fabulous, but that was 20 years ago.  Since then, it's been one negative piece of news after another, and the man that he used to be doesn't exist anymore.  Will he ever return to greatness? Probably not.  He's kind of become the Mike Tyson of hip-hop, and was never able to use his vast musical genius to do anything other than mess his life up. What a waste.  Former hip hop mogul Marion "Suge" Knight has been arrested on an outstanding warrant after being pulled over for a traffic violation in Los Angeles. Police Officer Sara Faden says the founder of Death Row Records was stopped shortly after midnight Wednesday near Beverly Hills. She declined to say what the alleged traffic violation was. Officers determined Knight was wanted on a misdemeanor warrant and police took him into custody. Records show he was booked into county jail and released several hours later on $20,000 bail. A warrant was issued for Knight's arrest in February after he skipped a court appearance for driving without a license. Death Row Records helped make stars of rappers such as Dr. Dre, Snoop Dogg and Tupac Shakur. Knight filed for bankruptcy in 2006. source The post Suge Knight Arrested appeared first on Black Like Moi . Read More »

Legendary Radio One Personality Dies of Sudden Heart Attack at 58 Years Old

E. Steven Collins  was a well-loved and highly esteemed  radio and media personality. Although he was based in Philadelphia, his impact was felt across the nation as he was often invited to comment on newsworthy events that impacted the Black community. This past Monday, he passed away after succumbing to a fatal heart attack. Collins hosted “Philly Speaks” on 100.3 in Philadelphia. He would often invite ... Read More »

Dr. Ahlishia Shipley Asks: Do Studies Show that Women Want to be Valued by their Appearance?

Dr. Ahlishia Shipley, CFLE Observing a woman being stared down by a male stranger because of her alluring figure is not an uncommon scene. Beauty and s*x appeal are highly held attributes in our society or at least this seems true when we take a glance at the images flashing before us on the television screen. What we may not see, however, are the negative emotions many women experience when they are valued on the basis of their appearance. Past research has shown female objectification often leads to anxiety and lowered self-esteem. According to the theory on s****l objectification, women may adopt these ‘outsider views’ on various levels and engage in self-objectifying by treating themselves as an object to be appraised on the basis of appearance. Much of this research has focused on interactions with strangers as opposed to intimate partners, which begs the question , how do women feel when they are valued for their bodies by a boyfriend or husband? Actually, research on this topic in the relationship context is limited, but at least one previous study has demonstrated a negative connection between a partner’s body objectification and a woman’s relationship satisfaction. Luckily, researchers have expanded on this area of research in two independent studies published in a recent article . The team focused on the link between ‘body valuation,’ as they described it, and relationship satisfaction. They went a step further by taking a new look at the extent to which male partners also valued women’s nonphysical characteristics and the influence of perceived commitment level.   The first study included over one hundred dating college females. These women were asked to report how much they feel their boyfriends value their body and their nonphysical attributes, such as creativity, intelligence, patience and generosity. They were also asked to report their overall relationship satisfaction and how committed they believed their partners were to the relationship.   Since the first study provided data from more unpredictable relationships among college students, the second study provided data representing more stable, long-term relationships by targeting sixty-nine married couples. Whereas the dating women in the first study offered perceived reports of their partners’ body and nonphysical valuation, husbands in Study 2 gave actual reports of how much they value their wives in these two domains. Similar to Study 1, wives’ reported on their relationship satisfaction and partner’s commitment to the marriage. All of the women in both studies reported their age and body dimensions to calculate body mass index (BMI).   For both of these studies, the researchers predicted that  women who have committed male partners who value both their bodies and nonphysical qualities should feel more satisfied because they are meeting their partners’ physical and nonphysical desires.  On the other hand, the team believed women valued for their bodies but not their other attributes could conceivably feel like s****l objects to their partners leading to relationship dissatisfaction, particularly so with uncommitted partners.   So, what did they find out?   Well, the researchers were right. The studies did support their predictions by demonstrating that body valuation, nonphysical valuation, and perceived partner commitment influence women’s relationship satisfaction. Simply stated, women in the studies were more satisfied when a) partners valued their bodies to extent that they also valued their nonphysical qualities and b) they believed their partner was committed to the relationship.   On the other end, placing high value on a female partner’s body did not have a significant association with her relationship satisfaction when the partner did not also value her other nonphysical attributes, even if she thought he was committed. Along the same lines, body valuation was negatively related to relationship satisfaction if the woman felt her partner was uncommitted, no matter how much he valued her nonphysical qualities.   Although the two studies did offer robust findings, the act of expressing value for a partner in a relationship varies across couples and cultures. Since the samples were mostly White, findings should be interpreted with some level of caution. For example, the authors noted that the effects of body valuation on the relationship satisfaction of Black women could be different than the effects reported in these studies because body-related standards, to a degree, are qualitatively distinct and nuanced in Black culture.   However, on a practical level, the findings offer implications for the ways in which couples express appreciation for their partners. The studies also highlighted the important role that perceived commitment can have on relationship satisfaction. Research suggests that couples should express appreciation and commitment in ways that are meaningful to the other partner to experience better relationship outcomes. According to Dr. John Gottman, a noted relationship scientist, this awareness can be built and maintained through the act of intimate conversation, where the main goals are showing interest and genuinely listening to your partner.   Speak up! What personal qualities do you want to be valued for by a partner – physical, nonphysical or both?  How would you like a partner to show their appreciation for your qualities in ways that are meaningful for you? Read More »

Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” Banned on a College Campus for Promoting R@pe Culture

The University of Edinburgh’s Student Association has, for some strange reason, banned the hit song “Blurred Lines” from their campus.   According to the university’s newspaper, the school’s DJ was told to take the song off a playlist in the middle of a disco. The song was banned in response to the school’s efforts to “End R@pe Culture and Lad Banter on Campus.” We’re not sure where anyone is r@ped in the song, but it appears that the school’s student association feels that the campaign will be a fight “against myths and stereotypes around s****l violence” and “to support women’s campaigns across the campus and Edinburgh to stand up against …misogynist views.” Kirsty Haigh, the association’s vice president of services, told The Indpendent that “the decision to ban ‘Blurred Lines’ from our venues has been taken as it promotes an unhealthy attitude towards s*x and consent. EUSA has a policy on zero tolerance towards s****l harrassment, a policy to end lad culture on campus and a safe space policy — all of which this song violates.” In the song, the artists are serenading women by saying things like “I know you want it,” which for some, indicates that they don’t understand that “no” means “no.”  But there are others who argue that the song speaks to the suppression of women’s ability to freely express intimate desires without the fear of being judged.  Thicke’s song says that women must sometimes be reminded that their natural desires deserve to be fulfilled. What do you think? Read More »

Cop Alleges Stalking to Undermine Woman’s Wrongful Arrest Lawsuit

by Barry Burch Jr. Imagine suing a police officer then imagine him stalking you, but saying it was you stalking him in order to undermine your claim.  Would you say that’s pretty low?  It’s allegedly the reality for a Brooklyn woman, who unluckily crossed paths with the wrong NYPD cop. Last week, Police Officer John Dammacco testified that he is the actual victim of plaintiff Nancy Jackson’s suit.  She is accusing Dammacco and 3 other officers of false arrest and several other civil rights violations. Dammacco said in his testimony, “She was stalking me.  I didn’t know if Miss Jackson knew my schedule, how long she was following me, if she knew when my wife was home by herself . . . I was afraid something was going to happen to myself or my family.” Jackson’s attorney, Robert Rambadadt, did not sit idle.  He hurriedly countered that it was Dammacco, who was following his client home from work.  Jackson is an activities director for special needs youngsters and senior citizens, as reported by NY Daily News. “The ‘stalking’ claim was completely fabricated to intimidate and discredit her,”  the lawyer told the paper. The root of the suit comes from 2 different confrontations between Jackson and Dammacco, one year apart from each other in southeast Queens. According to Jackson, in March 2009 cops made a lewd comment about her b*****s at a pizzeria and asked for her I.D.  Police claim they asked for Jackson’s I.D. because there was a suspicious man suspected to be selling drugs, and Jackson interfered with their investigation, telling the officers to leave the man alone.   Authorities say Jackson was being disruptive and was eventually arrested for disorderly conduct. Dammacco shamelessly attempted to convey his fear of Jackson.  “She fought almost all the cops on the 4-to-12 tour,” Dammacco said.  “I got injured.  I knew what she was capable of.”  But to no avail.  The charges were eventually dismissed. Fast forward to March 2010.  Dammacco, who claims that he was off duty, says he noticed he was being tailed.  Somehow he read the license plate, and called a colleague to find out the owner of the vehicle. Jackson on the other hand recalls differently.  The 46-year-old testified that after she realized that it was in fact, Dammacco pulling her over, she was terrified and immediately called 911. Guess what happened. Jackson was arrested; for stalking and harassment.  And Dammacco - he received a police radio t0 carry around for 24 hours a day. However, it’s not all bad news for the plaintiff, as the NYPD threat assessment unit failed to consider Jackson a danger.  The stalking charges were dismissed.  Also, Federal Judge William Kuntz refused a city request in April that would have ended Jackson’s pursuit for justice, stating that perhaps she was the victim of police brutality on that fateful night.  Kuntz found that officers were not justified in asking Jackson for her I.D., and also stated that a jury could reasonably make the decision that Jackson was “justified by self-defense” for her resistance of an unlawful arrest. Attorney Rambadadt said the authorities punched, kicked and handcuffed his client; all for ”nothing more than not having identification.”  Then they relentlessly orchestrated the bogus stalking charge. Barryburchjr@gmail.com Read More »

Wife of Scandal Co-Star Columbus Short Files for Divorce

Columbus Short has had a successful career.  But what he has not had is a successful personal life.  The co-star of the hit television show, “Scandal” is getting divorced from his wife, Tanee McCall-Short.  The two have been married for eight years. Tanee wants full custody of the couple’s daughter, who is now 19-months old.   She is also demanding ... Read More »