Black Men

Dr. Sinclair N. Grey III – Dear Black Man…

I know we’re living in a post-racial world – at least that’s what people like to say. Even though the Jim Crow era is officially over, the truth of the matter is that racism is alive and well. Please don’t act confused into thinking every white person is your friend. They are not and never will be.

Here’s a warning for you – I want you to be very careful if you decide to step out of your race and date a white woman. Understand this – I’m not hating on white women, but you need to know that Black women are equipped through their God-given DNA to want the BEST for you. While it may seem as though many of them can be hard to deal with for several reasons, the truth of the matter is that a Black woman will only reinforce your identity as a Black man. She will support you and push you to be all the you that you were called to be. She will fight for you like no one else. Let me be very blunt about this -she is your rib.

On the other hand, you need to know that dating a white woman opens you up to criticism and hatred. Not so much from your own people, but from those who are still ignorant about race relations and truly believe that the white race is superior. Take a moment and think about all of the lies white women have told about Black men throughout our history. Remember, it’s easy for them to blame a Black man for anything false and get sympathy from the public. Again I’m in no way, shape, or form categorizing all white women.

Never lose sight of your purpose. Simply put – your purpose at being a warrior, protector, and provider. Don’t be afraid of what white people will say and/or do will you take a stand because it’s more important for you to follow the directives of the Creator.

I want to challenge you to own your businesses so that you can create opportunities for your children and your children’s children. Become involved in the political system, not just locally but nationally. For a moment, look at Congress. What you see is white men looking out for other white men. In fact, many of the white men in Congress have pushed aside their women by not giving them equal pay for equal work.

Lastly, make sure our Black boys and girls excel in school so that they will not become part of the statistical data with regards to the prison industrial complex. Jail/prison is no place for a Black genius.

We can do this my brother. Let’s not deter one another like the system wants us to. In fact, let’s break free from slave thinking and reclaim the GREATNESS that’s already deposited in us from the Creator.

Dr. Sinclair Grey III is a minister, speaker, author, and success coach. Contact him at, or on Twitter @drsinclairgrey

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