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Dr. Sinclair N. Grey III – Why You Need A Partner To Compliment You Not Complete You

It’s sad when people who are single look for others to complete them. Let me say it again. The moment a person seeks another person to complete them, a problem occurs. Why? Because the same power you give someone to complete you is the same power you give them to deplete you. For some reason, there are so many single people who believe that someone completes them. To be frank with you – a person should compliment you – never complete you. There is a difference.

With so many single people wanting to be hooked up and married, it’s quite easy to believe that someone will complete you. Whenever you hear people say, ‘my partner completes me’ that should be a warning sign to you because completion should come from the Creator not a created being. Being single is not a curse. In fact, being single should not make you feel odd or strange. It’s your singleness that will enable you to find out who you are, what you want, what your desire, what you need, and where you want to go in life. Unless you perform a self-assessment on you, you will not understand that you don’t need someone to make you complete.

A person who compliments you, not complete you will do the following:

  1. Support your goals
  2. Allow you to be you. They will accept you and only want the best for you
  3. Give you the necessary space you need to grow professionally, personally, and spiritually
  4. Remain secure and not always question you
  5. Add value to you

Those who are single have to be picky with who they date. Just dating someone because they look good or have plenty of money to spend isn’t good enough. There has to be complimenting. Remember, when you’re with someone who compliments you and not complete you, you’ll avoid unnecessary drama.

The challenge for those who are single and dating is to ask yourself the following questions – ‘is the person I’m dating complimenting me and is the person I’m dating adding value to me? If the answer to these two questions are ‘no,’ you know what you need to do.

Dr. Sinclair Grey III is a speaker, minister, author, and success coach. Contact him at or on Twitter @drsinclairgrey

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