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Dr. Sinclair N. Grey III – 4 Ways To Keep Your Relationship From Boredom

There are so many ways to make a relationship work. No rational person wants to be in a dysfunctional relationship. Who has time for arguing and drama? Let’s face it – being in a relationship does require work, however, when that work becomes a burden, then the relationship isn’t productive.

When you and your partner have strong communication, you’re headed in the right direction. Please don’t miss this – I didn’t say communication, I said ‘strong communication.’ By this I mean you and your partner value what each other says whether you agree or disagree. Sadly, there are too many relationships that fail at communication and when there’s a failure in communication, nothing positive gets done. It’s important to know that communication isn’t a monologue, but a dialogue that brings about understanding.

How many times have you found yourself in a relationship that lacked good and effective communication? How many times have you been the only one communicating while your partner didn’t say a word and/or couldn’t express themselves verbally? How many times have you been disappointed and even aggravated with a lack of communication? Life is too short to be trapped in a relationship with no communication. It will drain you as well as deplete you.

Here are some ways you can have strong communication within your relationship:

  1. Understand what communication means to you. So many people are looking for something they don’t even exhibit. In other words, don’t expect your partner to be a communicator when you choose to simply be a listener. Yes, listening is a valuable trait, but you have to open your mouth and say something

  2. Avoid making communicating via social media a top priority. I know we live in the age of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram just to a few, but relationship is not done through social media. It’s done face-to-face or talking on the phone. Note: I didn’t say texting. Hearing a person’s voice is priceless

  3. Establish how important communication is at the beginning of the relationship. By letting your partner know what’s important to you, this clears up any future misunderstanding. If your partner cannot reciprocate with the level of importance communication has within a relationship, you have a red flag. Don’t overlook it

  4. Make sure you and your partner can discuss a variety of topics. Without being about to discuss various things, boredom will set in. Once boredom sets in, problems will occur. You and your partner should be educated on several issues which will lead to intellectual stimulation

Studies point to one of the reasons relationships fail is due to the lack of communication. This can be avoided, if the importance of communication is laid out in the beginning. You cannot get caught up on a person’s looks or what they have materialistically that you forget you need strong communication.

Here’s a hint for you: if your partner is unable to look you in your eyes while communicating, they don’t value you and in most cases, they are hiding something.

Dr. Sinclair Grey III is a speaker, minister, author, and success coach. Contact him at or on Twitter @drsinclairgrey

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