by Yvette Carnell
A woman who identifies herself only as “Black and Proud”, something she’s obviously not, wrote Essence magazine to complain about her nice, rich white husband using racial slurs during s*x:
My man keeps calling me a “n!gger b!tch” during s*x and I hate it.
She hits us with that nugget first, then continues:
The first time he let the n-word drop was during s*x on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my p*bic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “n!gger lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.
And to finish things off, she throws shade at all black men:
Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate.
This is the sort of nonsense that clogs my newsfeed.
Anyway, Abiola Abrams answers “Black and Proud”, who Abrams refers to as “queen”, with the sort of self-empowerment speech you’d expect. Truth is, however, “Black and Proud” could use a bit more straight talk and a lot less sympathy.
If this story is true (doubtful), then the woman writing into Essence asking for advice, whom I will refer to only as “Stupid”, deserves exactly what she is getting. If you read carefully, you’ll see that Stupid’s biggest concern is “not working” and “maintaining her new lifestyle”. Hence, she needs to get over it and become “n!gger bitch” in bed. She knew he had this fantasy. It did not just crop up like a bad bugga-boo on their honeymoon night. No way.
She needs to stop pretending she is turned off, and if she is it was way before this and now all she is worried about is money. She won’t get much of her banker husband’s investments after only 1 year of marriage. Better stick it out. Drop some babies. Wear earplugs. Cut the ‘good hair’. Start wearing do-rags and ‘blacker-face’ to bed… you know, make being n!gger b!tch fun!
No matter what she does, she should stop wasting the time of Essence editors and women of color with her nonsense. We have real issues to worry about.