by Yvette Carnell
There’ve been quite a few responses to my Christmas Eve list, 5 Reasons Why the African-American Community is (Still) Failing, so many, in fact, that I’ve decided to respond to a few of the comments.
I’ve taken these responses from all around the web, including my own Facebook page, reddit, here at YourBlackWorld, and the comments sections of other blogs. I’ve paraphrased some of the comments to protect the stupid.
“i see no plan [yvette] delivered with this harsh truth, except…”
Oh, c’mon?! Really? You’re asking me for a plan on how you should run your life? As I said here, it’s not my job to give you a power point or hold your wee wittle hand. And you don’t need Al Sharpton to show up at a rally in order for you to stop doing the five self-defeating things I listed in my article. Know what you’re doing right now though, with that ‘give me a plan’ nonsense? You’re trying to wiggle your way out of making any changes to your values and their mirrored behaviors.
Listen. You don’t have to like what I say. I don’t like it when I get a cramp while I’m running. But biology happens. And consequences follow actions. To throw out everything I’ve said because I didn’t offer you a *plan* makes no sense, and somewhere deep down, you know it.
“it’s not just black people, I know white people who do some of the same things..”
And? Did I ever say that the problems I listed only impact African-Americans? No. Never. There are probably more Tea Partiers who’ve lost their minds to religious zealotry than African-Americans who are still in the pews of *Bishop* Eddie Lee Long or Wiley Jackson. So what? Why should you care? The point is, this sort of foolishness disproportionately impacts us, and so we should face it and fix it.
“…bull crap lady…”
Yeah, you’re all about intelligent conversation, huh? Why did you even bother to comment? Wouldn’t it have been more productive for you to just turn over in bed and fart?
“Why not write an article on 5 ways the black community can heal, receive strength, peace and an entrepreneurial spirit..”
Because the hippies were wrong. The world doesn’t care about you, or me, or how we feel, or how much peace we have. The world, and the people who inhabit it, only care about what we can provide that is of value. That’s it. Even Oprah, who invited spiritual gurus such as Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson on her show to help you live your best life, would’ve been out of a job had she not provided viewers with a show they actually valued more than whatever else was on at 4PM.
And you know how you build an entrepreneurial spirit? By actually starting a business. By actually building something that you’re proud of that your people will support. Wanna feel better about yourself? Build something. Heal through hard work.
“…dream big? surviving is dreaming big when your life is made so cheap..”
Surviving is not the same as thriving. We’ve been merely surviving for over 400 years. It’s time to move on to bigger and better things. There is a reason why other minority communities are, as I’ve already mentioned, running rings around us. Yes, racism is real. But what does that have to do with how Habib, fresh off the plane from India, can get a 1600 on the SAT while Lil Man doesn’t even bother to take the test? Did the white man do that too? Or is that bad parenting? Why do some young black men have no problem selling crack poison, but view McJobs as beneath them? Is that part of what it means to survive?
I’m sorry, people, but if all you can tell me is that we’re already thriving, or that we should be focusing on kumbaya and peace, then just back the f*ck up and make room for Habib and Zhi Peng, because they’re about to steal your kid’s future.
And if you don’t believe in anything I’ve written, no worries. Here’s a picture of black people holding up little baggies of fried chicken sandwiches: