by Tiara Williams I had a chance to check out the new hit show on VH1 “Marrying the Game” for the first time. I was reluctant to watch but I was at someone else’s house and that’s what they were watching. So, I chucked it up as “research for Reel Righteous.” The show is based on the life of “gangsta” rapper Jayceon “The Game” Taylor. He and his long time girlfriend Tiffany Cambridge are a few weeks away from tying the knot, and this series was supposed to document the joys of marrying The Game. Immediately, I understood why this show was on the air. There’s an insecure 40- something year old Tiffany Cambridge who just wants her 31 year old son..I mean fiance to act like a grown man. The couple’s dynamic is very “worthy” of a reality show in a very ‘Love in Hip Hop kind of way. On this particular episode, Tiffany wanted to accompany Jayceon on a one-day performance in France, Jayceon said it was a waste for her to come because the trip was short and to him that didn’t make sense. Tiffany yelled and screamed for at least 10 minutes in show time. which is a very long time. It was painful to watch. Her issue with her fiance was that he was paying for his FEMALE assistant to go on the trip, while she stayed home. She didn’t understand why his male crew members couldn’t perform the tasks that the assistant was assigned. Jayceon expressed the need for his assistant to go on the trip. He said that she would deal with assistant-affiliated duties and he didn’t want his crew/ ni**as to deal with that ****. This reasoning made sense to him so he wasn’t even listening to Tiffany. After much yelling, screaming and calling the poor assistant every name but the child of God, he still denied her request. In fact, he just left her at the front door, screaming. He went to France, and left Tiffany home. While in France “The Game” was involved in an altercation with a security guard at the club. He says he was walking out of a club and he thought he heard someone tell him to shut up, so he hit that man with a bottle, and in return he was also hit with a bottle. “The Game” obviously thought it was cute stating, that “sometimes as a gangsta rapper, **** gets gangsta.” (EYE ROLL) Whatever. Just foolishness. You thought you HEARD him say shut up and that was grounds for you to attempt to hurt him? The show perpetuates exactly what Africans Americans have come to be associated with, violence and dysfunction. While watching Jayceon, I saw a man wanting to live up to an image. He’s a black man, gang banger, rapper, and tough guy. We get it. His five bullet wound scars are badges of honor and if you look his way, he will hit you in the head with a bottle. He exudes the angry black man. The one thing I don’t understand about the rappers these days, is their loyalty to the hood. I sympathize with being raised in the ghetto, I’ve seen my share of the hood. I get it.You once lived in an environment that was violent, crime-ridden, and infested with drugs, murder and negativity. You become your surroundings to survive. BUT you had an opportunity to leave those terrible conditions and now you live in luxury, with a beautiful home, nice cars, and clothes. Why are you still trying to prove that you are still connected to a place that your not. You don’t live that life anymore. You’ve made out, now you can create a lane to bring others with you. But you don’t do that. You conduct yourself in a way that’s reckless, embarrassing and wack. Furthermore, you can’t go back to that same hood you lived in because you would targeted for robbery or murder. My point, the streets don’t love you like you love them. And poor Tiffany. Clearly this woman has been cheated on. Many times. We see an aging woman that wants to be married to a man that’s going to do right by her. A man that treats her with respect, love, honor and most importantly take care of her. Unfortunately, she’s trying she’s trying to force an immature Jayceon to fit that mold. I get it. She’s invested in Jayceon, she’s been his ride or die chick, so she’s not letting him go, ring the alarm! But he’s a kid, a celebrity, and he’s 31! He’s immature, he doesn’t communicate well and they fight over cinnamon rolls. Girl….whew. Good luck! I just wish there were more positive things to say about the show. So much drama, stereotypes and foolishness. If they wanted to flip this into positive programming they could.. Hmmm. Well… they could. They could take it off the air?!