by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Your Black World
The Internet was all abuzz yesterday as the rapper Jay-Z made interesting comments about his desire to spoil his new daughter rotten. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, the 43-year old artist said that his daughter, Blue Ivy Carter, “will probably be the worst, spoiled kid ever.”
Appearing tonight on “Oprah’s Master Class: Special Edition,” Jigga goes on to say “I imagine I’ll take things I learned from my mom and things I’ve learned from raising my nephews and apply that.”
Normally, I wouldn’t comment on how another man raises his child. But given that the Jay-Z/Beyonce relationship has become a template for so many members of the black community, I thought I might say something. There is a tremendous degree of urgency regarding how we raise our kids, for the influence of hip hop culture is ruining some of them before they have a chance to develop a meaningful value system (Hint: Notice the baby in the beauty salon wearing Air Jordans, while his mama won’t spend the same amount of money putting him into an educational program). Also, with all due respect to Jay-Z’s mother, we have to remember that while she raised one of the most brilliant lyricists in the history of the world, she also raised a drug dealer who shot his own brother, and who also seems to measure his self-worth by the number of Bentleys in his driveway.
By “spoiled,” I am hopeful that Jay-Z means that he plans to shower his daughter with love and affection, which is important in building the self-esteem of young women. If that’s the case, then I am in lockstep, given that I try to spoil my own daughters in the same way. Not a day passes where they don’t know how much I love them.